Most of the things we imagine never happen. When the thing imagined is positive but remains solely in an imagined and far-off future, it’s called fantasy. When the thing imagined is negative, one feels a sense of impending catastrophe. Fantasy and perceived catastrophe are bedfellows, and neither lives in the present. Their past-tense equivalents might be nostalgia and regret. Again, nostalgia and regret are bedfellows, and neither lives in the present. How often do you live in these four states?
“It’s a great cake. A bride-cake. Mine!”
(Great Expectations, Charles Dickens)